It was disgusting yet unsurprising that some of you were more focused on Ariana Grande’s dress length vs the fact that she was literally groped in front of all of America. It’s unsurprising that your anger would be focused on what Ariana chose to wear while that same anger is nowhere to be found for these “men of god” who love to drool over and grab anything that comes within their immediate radius.
I found it beyond ironic that there were gays on Twitter getting angry about Ariana’s ‘lack of respect for the church’ when that same church and (some of the performers/speakers at Aretha's service) have been openly disrespectful to the very existence of LGBT people. Some gays are using the church’s standards to try and drag Ariana when those same standards have destroyed many gays’ sense of self worth/will to live.
There is a history of harassment/sexual assault not only in the Catholic Church but in many black churches around the country. There are countless stories of people from all walks of life being taken advantage of by leaders in the church. Their pleas fall on ears that are unwilling to listen. These victims are victimized again as they watch everyone lie and cover up for these church ‘leaders.’ When are we going to talk about that?
When are we going to talk about church mothers who are so ready to police what young girls wear, but turn a blind eye to the sexual violence that is happening right in front of them? When are we going to talk about the male deacons who blame little girls for their OWN wandering eyes and hands? We have a serious problem when it comes to blaming the victim and coddling the aggressor. There are people who hate family gatherings because their former/current abuser is always there and no one seems to care about it. Yall take that same energy to church and then shift your attentions to someones short skirt.
We are never going to move forward as a people if the poison of toxic masculinity and sexual assault is permitted to expand. Not only is it allowed, but it seems to be encouraged. If you all would take that same energy you use to worry about the ‘appropriateness’ of dresses and place it into preventing the cooning, self-destructive respectability, and sexual abuse that are all commonplace in our communities, then the world might be a better place.